Everyone wants to be treated fairly. Unfortunately the idea of absolute fairness does not exist. “Fairness” is relative to the person or institution defining fairness. The jury who finds the defendant guilty will always be viewed by the defendant and his/her lawyers as unfair. And of course the game winning call by the referee will be seen by the losing team as blatantly bias. Everyone at one time or another receives unfair treatment. That is the nature of society. Extreme anger in the face of unfairness usually causes more damage and does not address the unfairness.
Coping with unfairness is a challenge. Society has institutions such as the court to address unfairness. Going to court may not be viable option for many people. When you are faced with an injustice it can hurt and promote festering anger. Yet being able to cope with the age old problems of society is important for emotional well-being. Being able to understand both the system that led to the unfairness and your emotional response can help avoid unhealthy anger. Associated Behavioral Consultants, Inc. has helped many clients resolve anger related to unjust treatment and move on.